Big Love

Hey…I got “it” and some self reflection

My recent dating app adventure has been eye opening.

Making my profile this go around was easier and I had better recent images to draw on which helped. I also saw the opportunity to be a bit more descriptive of myself and my interests this time. Last year I signed up for my first online dating experience.

Once I got my profile completed I was ready for something to happen. But nothing did. Now, I know it can take sometime to view and find matches. But it is also frustrating when you join up and you’re like, ready.

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Then a few days later I started to get some likes from members of the opposite sex. (I’m a cisgendered female, who dates men, or is trying to). These “likes” did not meet the preferences I set, especially in the age category. I was disappointed.

There were no fish in my sea.

This continued. Then one day I looked at my likes and I saw that 50 men liked me. Not 50 meet-all-my-preferences profiles, but 50 men out in the world, real people. This is not meant as a brag, rather to make a point.

People liked me. The glass was half full. That felt good.

Looking at it with a different lens was everything. Rebuilding confidence is a process. One where un-chinking that fence, removing armor, and softening all need care, kindness, and time.

On top of getting likes, there were some great complimentary notes in there as well. Little unexpected gems. Things like, “great smile,” “I like your warmth”, and “love the hair and the vibes.”

Though most I did not “like” back, I silently thanked them all and wished them luck on their journey. I believe there is love out there for everyone.

You got the, you got the juice

Let me be clear, let me tell me the truth

I love the energy inside the room

Juice, Young Franco & Pell